What Do Women Want? Glad You Asked…

9 Jun

Much has been made of Daniel Bergner’s book What Do Women Want?, in which Bergner reveals scientific research showing that women’s sex drives are, biologically, much the same as men’s. Stimulated by visuals. Not limited by depictions of romance. Willing to make the first move – and all the moves after that.

Everyone seems to hear this series of revelations in a different way. I’m not surprised, myself. After all, who made all these proclamations about women’s sex drives in the first place? Society. Yeah, society’s *never* been wrong about women before, right?

At the same time, none of this means we women are going to be acting on all our sexual impulses. Outwardly, our drives will likely look the same as they did before Bergner’s book came out. We just won’t have biology to use as a convenient hiding place anymore. Jezebel offers a tongue-in-cheek list of reasons women haven’t been acting on our sex drives, now that we know they’re as strong as those of men.

In any event, if we’re not using our newly revealed sex drives to, you know, have the sex to which we are biologically entitled, we can still put it to fantastic use. Amanda Hess writes about Playboy’s slight shift in focus, designed to attract more female readers. (I still daydream about getting a Playboy interview one day.) Maybe we’ll see a rise in different types of erotic and pornographic entertainment. I love what Cindy Gallop’s doing with Make Love Not Porn. I’m hoping to see Playgirl in print again one day before I die. While I’m waiting, I’ll keep an eye out for an expansion in the already growing market in woman-owned erotic cinema. And of course, I’m counting on huge growth in erotic fiction.

We can also just be having more sex. Just putting that out there as an option.

So what about you? Now that the truth about the female sex drive has been pulled into the light, what do you plan to do with it?

Alexa Day knows she ought to be writing, but if you want to catch up with her, Facebook might be the easiest way. She’s participating in the Loving Day Blog Hop on Wednesday, so keep an eye on her blog, too!

2 Responses to “What Do Women Want? Glad You Asked…”

  1. Marilyn Campbell June 11, 2013 at 7:01 am #

    Great article Alexa! Thanks.

    • Alexa Day June 11, 2013 at 6:16 pm #

      But of course! I’m glad you enjoyed it. 🙂

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